Why are you here?
I could ask: ‘Why have you come here this afternoon, what were you looking for?‘ Would it be too presumptuous of me to say that you were looking for help? That you hoped you would hear somebody who had something to say that would be of help and relevance to you as members of a world which is running into the most intense difficulty.
[This is because] we are all in various ways self-seeking, lacking in wisdom, lacking in courage, afraid of death, afraid of pain, unwilling really to cooperate with others, unwilling to be open to others. And we all think ‘That’s too bad. It’s me that’s wrong, and if only I could be the right person. Is this man going to tell me something that will help me to change myself so that I would be a more creative and cooperative member of the human race? I would like to improve.’
So in so many people’s minds and from so many different angles, there is this urgent feeling that ‘I must improve me’. […] Now in this question ‘Can I improve me?’ there is the obvious difficulty, that if I am in need of improvement, the person who’s going to do the improving, is the one who needs to be improved.
And there immediately we have a vicious circle.
Who we are
NoMo is a community of relationship radicals: people who are trying to master the art of life. We actively engage with everyone who is making conscious lifestyle choices. We enquire, we debate, we share advice and our stories. We believe the greatest lab in the world is ourselves.
As a unique intersection of a personal development site, a sophisticated play party and a self-improvement support group, NoMo enables you to explore conscious relationships and all forms of personal connection, freedom & self-development within and from the heart of a supportive, growth-focussed network. We believe that meeting in person in a supportive environment beats a swipe right any day.
In order to deliver an experience catered to your level of comfort, NoMo offers an online platform for news and debate via NoMo: Community, as well as a physical space for members to interact via its two events NoMo: Icebreaker (a monthly social) and NoMo: Playground (a play event). We believe it is your choice as to how you engage with the tools we are providing.
One of the most common accusations I have had levelled at me since I came out about my open marriage, subsequent separation and now polyamorous lifestyle is that I was the epitome of selfishness. I promise you that no one has thought that about me more then I have. The question I asked myself, before […]
Your founders were asked to contribute to a conversation about polyamory and non-monogamy on BBC Radio Five Live earlier in April 2018. The dialogue was between us as well as a psychologist and researcher, Dr Christine Campbell, and relationship coach, Sam Owen. Listen from 2:36. We would love to know what you think! https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b09yd4pv