How being “selfish” made me a better parent

One of the most common accusations I have had levelled at me since I came out about my open marriage, subsequent separation and now polyamorous lifestyle is that I was the epitome of selfishness. I promise you that no one has thought that about me more then I have. The question I asked myself, before […]

Do you know your own mind?

When was the last time you thought about your brain? That pound of grey jelly in your head is the most sophisticated, and significant, part of your body and yet most of us never think of it at all. As we age, many of us focus on strengthening our bodies when it is our minds […]

NoMo: Icebreaker Feb 2018

What a fabulous February Friday night! NoMo, the conscious relationships community, came together last Friday to meet, talk and hug. It was wonderful to see so many new faces as well as to give a warm hello to those who have been coming regularly now for more than a few months. No matter what the […]

Change and acceptance

Everything is always changing so nothing can be yours – Shunryu Suzuki I love the sense of calm that this line induces in me but I would be lying if I said I had always had an easy relationship with change. When our belief systems are challenged by our feelings or by events, we can […]

Conscious monogamy

At the start of a new year, many people assess their emotional wellbeing and their relationships. It’s natural to use this turning point of the old year to the new to evaluate and review where we are, and to think of what we wish for and what we might want to change. Monogamy as a […]