Be careful out there…

It is fascinating to see so many representations of non-monogamy and polyamory surfacing in the media at the moment. We are, I suspect,  reaching “peak” poly: a point in the media landscape where this choice of relationship framework becomes a trend and not just a fad.

I am equally as fascinated by the fact that the media, as ever, attaches so much drama to poly and loves to have a negative or unhappy conclusion. I have not seen the below show (it comes out soon) but the main characters do not LOOK very happy for most of the last twenty seconds. I get that drama needs actual drama but there is also the sense that these narratives are meant as cautionary tales: do not step off the path, there are wolves and danger out there.

But, as with The Price of Salt (a.k.a. Carol) by Patricia Highsmith which was, famously, the first lesbian love story to have a happy ending, there are alternative ways to tell the polyamory story. I wonder how long it will take for the media to catch on to no-drama, happy poly? Based on my experience of the media, I think I will be wondering that for a long time… but trust me: it IS possible.

The clip can be seen here .

P.S. Nicholas Hoult and Laia Costa are HOT 😉



2 thoughts on “Be careful out there…

  1. So true…. Social media IS changing the general steadiness of life. More fluidity is the result and constant change is the new dynamic. Monogamy cannot survive in the way it has been fashioned fashioned by society of old.
    Poly lifestyles are a reaction to this change. It represents a shared intimacy that has developed via the shared intimacy that social media affords.
    But, importantly, people need to find what works for them. They need to throw away the rule book.
    However, societal pressures are immense (we are social beings after all) and it takes courage to go against the norm. This will be a revolution that will not be without its knock backs.

  2. Hi Dominic! Thanks for the thoughtful comment 🙂 Looking at the rules and deciding what does and does not work for you right now – “customise your commitments” as the Relationship Anarchy manifesto suggests – sounds like a good place to start!

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