Overcoming the fear of change and loss

One thing that often gets missed, in all the drama around the changes I have gone through in the last three years, is the immense sadness and pain that the ending of my marriage has caused me. Yes, I chose to do it and, yes, I needed to, for all sorts of complex and very […]

How being “selfish” made me a better parent

One of the most common accusations I have had levelled at me since I came out about my open marriage, subsequent separation and now polyamorous lifestyle is that I was the epitome of selfishness. I promise you that no one has thought that about me more then I have. The question I asked myself, before […]

NoMo: Icebreaker Feb 2018

What a fabulous February Friday night! NoMo, the conscious relationships community, came together last Friday to meet, talk and hug. It was wonderful to see so many new faces as well as to give a warm hello to those who have been coming regularly now for more than a few months. No matter what the […]

Change and acceptance

Everything is always changing so nothing can be yours – Shunryu Suzuki I love the sense of calm that this line induces in me but I would be lying if I said I had always had an easy relationship with change. When our belief systems are challenged by our feelings or by events, we can […]